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Should you get lessons for a wedding day first dance to remember?

So dancing at a wedding is one of the main events for most of the people going to the wedding. It can cause a stir when friends or family who never dance get up to shake a taiil feather like the rest. Or the trained dancer fo the group uses it as a chance to put o a display to be remembered. With enough alcohol inside you, or just pure excitement and energy for those under age and younger, dancing is for everyone. 

But how do we feel about the 'First Dance'? A tradition we wish didn't exist because the new running joke might be your two left feet or that feels like you are on show a bit like performing....[insert animal, figure in society or general derogitory comment about yourself]. Well here at Wight Wedding Days we believe that you can, if you want, fulfil this tradition that so many expect from you in one of a few ways.

1. Make a pact with your fellow guests ahead of your day that they must come and join you on the dance floor after a pre-arranged length of time. Wedding first dances can make you feel like you are on show so suddenly being surrounded by all your friends and family dancing along will probably leave you to enjoy the moment without feeling self concious at all. 

2. Decide you won't dance with each other to begin with you will dance with your mum or dad first and then suggest they dance with each other after wards before you decide to have your first dance as husband and wife. A sort of final dance with the parents before your first. That way there are already 2 other people on the dance floor. You could ask them to then go and choose another family member to dance with. See how the numbers are increasing around you. Crowds to hide amongst.

3. Lessons and learning - why not learn to dance in the lead up to your day. If you are unsure of what you should be doing and you would feel more comfortable learning a couple of moves instead of shuffling around like the school disco slow dance, then why not? It is a great activity to do together before your wedding day which will give you time out from planning to enjoy each others company. 

4........You aren't embarassed at all, and in fact have choreographed a routine or are even considering a flash mob (can't even type those words without my eyes widening in excitement at the prospect of an Isle of Wight one!).

5. Don't dance at all!....although you feel like it is tradition and guests expect you to have a first dance, if dancing is something neither of you are keen on then just don't do it to yourself. Your wedding day on the Isle of Wight should be a reflection of you and you should enjoy every bit of it, so if your friends wouldn't expect you to dance and that isn't the surprise you were going for (ahem..flashmob) then i'm sure the day will be just as enjoyable without a dance. 

You are free to carry out whichever traditions you want on your wedding day. In todays society we are told of so many wedding traditions, that fitting them all into your day would be a massive task. Choose those that are important to you both and will ensure you enjoy yourselves and any that you would please your closest family members, but even then they will want to see you happy.  

If you do choose to have a first dance but would like help getting better at it, then why not choose to use one of our listed suppliers. We can suggest Spotlight Boutique who offer dance lesson and choreograhy for flashmob dance routines.