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Parents paying for weddings - BBC Radio Solent interview with Katie on Katie Martin's show

How pleased were we when an email from BBC Radio Solent landed in the inbox! Asking if we would be happy to be interviewed on Katie Martin's show and asked about who pays for weddings these days. A new survey out says that 1/3 of parents plan on paying for their daughters wedding and 1/3 of parents will pay for their sons. We asked the Wight Wedding Days audience and there were mixed reviews. 

Many people, including yourself perhaps, will be paying for all, if not most, of your wedding. You will be saving like you've never saved before, spending time you never knew you had emailing and calling suppliers, and potentially feeling more stressed than you have done so far in life. That is the reality of wedding planning. It can also cost a fair bit, depending on what you want. 

Sometimes we need to ask friends and family to help out with time and effort, and sometimes we need to ask for money. There are a few couples who are lucky enough to be helped out with a little monetary gift from their family. Whilst some have to ask because they need to. If you are receiving the gift of money then try to receive it graciouslly and if you feel it would be polite and welcomed, perhaps consider their requests for your wedding day. If you are considering asking for help with your wedding budget then just consider if it can be afforded by the person you are asking because sometimes they won't be able to say no even if it will be financially more difficult for them. Before you do, just make sure you definitely need that money and couldn't adjust your idea slightly to make it cheaper, and have found the best deal. 

The whole experience got us thinking and here are our tips (some mentioned on the show) for budgeting and asking for money - 

  • Set your budget early and make sure you can afford your wedding

  • Shop around for the best deal from wedding suppliers

  • But, remember price isn't everything. Quality is important too and good customer service is crucial

  • Imagine the wedding of your dreams and then try to plan that (in essence) on YOUR budget, not Kate Middletons. 

  • Do some DIY because you can save money, but remember it will cost you time so rope in the friends and family

  • Make sure you spend your budget wisely, wherever it has come from. It is very easy to go over your budget even when it becomes more than you originally had. Be strict with yourself. 

There is plenty more to be said for budgeting and using your money wisely, but the main rule is be realistic. No one wants to start a marriage with serious money worries. Spend enough to enjoy your wedding day and the years to come after it. 

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