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Don't Do It Yourself - Do It Together!

It’s not about doing things yourself, it’s about DIT – Doing It Together! Those of you who read our previous blog ‘start planning your Wight wedding day’ may know where we are going with this…

Sorting out your wedding day budget can be a bit of a minefield, especially when you both are trying to decide where it would be best spent. Ladies have a tendency to want to spend a little more on the perfect dress and shoes (naturally) while some men are wondering exactly what kind of food and drink the venue might offer (you will need the fuel for dancing). Each wedding day is different but there is one guarantee, almost all of you will want to save some money, which is no surprise given how easily a wedding day budget can get out of hand.

One of the ways to prevent breaking the bank is to make, buy or DIY. Whether it is creating your own centrepieces, dressing over 100 chairs with covers and ribbons, sewing yards of your own unique bunting, arranging your own flowers, placing and lighting 100s of candles, creating and making your own stationery, baking your own cake, making your own favours or writing all of the place names…..phew!The list goes on (we all like a good list). There are certain problems that come with doing things yourself, which is why we advocate sharing the tasks between your loved ones.

DIT – Do It Together

As much as you may want to retain control, remember that many hands make light work. Hopefully you will initially have a supportive partner who is willing to help. They will be swiftly followed by other member of the bridal party, and other groups of close friends and family willing to offer you a few of the following.

Time – It is precious

We all lead busy lives and understand how hard it is to find enough hours in the day to get everything done and have a chance to relax. Keep in mind that some DIY or DIT tasks are going to use up a lot of your spare time. So best start as early as possible, any tasks are best done in littlier bursts but more often. Making 80-120 of something can be more time consuming than you anticipate so give yourself a break and avoid huffs by leaving plenty of time to get the job done well.

It might sounds obvious, but don’t risk turning up on your big day with mahoosive dark circles under your eyes, covered in paper cuts, unable to exchange rings because you’ve pritt-sticked a couple of fingers together. You’d be surprised how many people underestimated how long some DIY tasks take, and how often things need re-doing.

Effort – both physical and mental

As well as time, DIY requires both physical and mental effort. You may be moving and dressing 100’s of chairs with covers or sitting up till the wee hours typing, printing, cutting and sticking. If a creative flair or strength doesn’t come naturally then you may find these tasks all the more demanding. Start thinking about which of your friends are the most talented and willing, rope in all the amateur favour makers and make it worth their while by treating them to midnight feasts and a few drinks. Make a party out of it and you’ll find you might just enjoy it!

Money - we've tried, but it really won't grow on trees

No one wants to spend more than they absolutely have to. There is no doubt that there is the opportunity to make some savings by DIT, however the cost to you and your friends and family will be time and effort. If you have these to spare then you may be on the right track to putting the personal touch to your wedding for less.

You may decide that if there is the money to spare it is worth getting those experienced Isle of Wight Suppliers to alleviate the strain by making, delivering or doing those things that may take you all hours to complete. The finish may be more professional, more like you imagined and will definitely leave you more time. Time you may chose to spend practicing that first dance, taking that extra fitness class for the wedding day body, writing a speech, having a facial or just to relax and put your feet up ahead of what is going to be a long day. It may even be worth talking to suppliers to see if there is anything you and your friends can do to reduce the cost of the job by helping or finishing tasks yourselves.

It's best to start roping people in now; start buttering your loved ones up as soon as possible to give yourselves the best chance of Doing It Together. Share the workload and start calling in those favours Singlehandedly trying to accomplish multiple tasks will only put a strain on you both and potentially your relationship ahead of your wedding day and marriage. We say it isn’t worth it and there will be plenty of people who care for and love you both who are willing to give up some of their spare time to help you. You may even find that you experience some great moments with the people most important to you whilst coming together to put your own stamp on your day.

DIT and DIY will definitely lead to savings, a unique and personal touch to your day, some giggles and some tired tears. Just consider it carefully, then go for it.

If you have any good DIT tips or examples of how you’ve got your friends and family involved in wedding preparation we would love to hear from you!

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