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Consider an alternative stag or hen that helps others 

We know the average spend on a wedding is £16,164 but what’s the average spend on Stag and Hen parties? (Well Hitched-wife.org suggests it is £2856 in total together) Hen do’s have come about as a response to Stag Parties where traditionally, the bridegroom would provide a dinner for his friends shortly before the nuptial celebration.

From a few cheeky drinks down the local, Hen parties in the 21st Century have become weekend long sprees in hot Mediterranean locations involving loved ones and laughter with the odd novelty plastic private part and shed loads of booze.

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(Oh couldn't resist a little bit of Martine McCucheon hen action! from HelloMagazine)

Now, I love a good drink and have often dreamed that if I were ever lucky enough to get hitched I would gather my favourite lady friends and indulge in all kinds of pampering and fun making – sparing no expense. Recently, however, a friend of mine returned from a stag party, which had been far from ordinary. He said it was the best weekend he had EVER had.

Poised to make notes for a best stag party drinking games blog, I was genuinely surprised and charmed by the story of his weekend.

It turned out that the best man and groom knew a young man in their town who had been left disabled following a season in Afghanistan. The guy was living in a house that proved to be rather inaccessible. His front garden was out of hand and he struggled to make it through his front door with ease. The best man invited all of the stag party down for the weekend for a few days of Stag activities and ‘to get hammered’ - the party and groom arrived on the day expecting to get stuck in down the local pub. They were surprised when ‘getting hammered’ actually meant getting kitted out with claw heads and mallets. The best man had volunteered the party to get stuck into helping the war hero make sense of his garden and construct various apparatus to help him get in and out with greater ease.

Interspersed with many beer and burger breaks throughout the two days. The stag party worked together to do something that was for a greater good, and enjoyed such an amazing sense of unity and pride. The Groom was nearly in tears at the end of it and said that the experience had reinforced what lovely guys his mates were and how lucky he was to have them. It also reminded him of the importance of commitment, perseverance and support ahead of his nuptials. All the lads had shared how hard work and effort pays off. During this exhilarating and bromantic weekend, the team even found an additional stag who was more than happy with the end result.

The enthusiasm my friend had for the weekend was contagious. Suddenly a self-indulgent weekend filled with unnecessary pampering, gift buying and cream teas didn’t have quite the same glow. When you think about the amount of cash we spend on weddings it’s a shame those funds don’t go some way to making a more lasting impression or difference.

I began to wonder how you could tailor a hen party in the same way. Why not set aside some of the spa and lunch budget for an activity that might go some way to benefit a member of the community while also teaching you a few good lessons for married life?

Marianne X

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